The break up of any relationship will leave a scar, and many of us might carry guilt as a result. It does not necessarily mean we did something wrong. It’s just that by putting us first, often means saying no to other things.
Too often we try to please someone who we are attracted to, or even in love with. In the process we try to be what we believe they want us to be. Instead we should just be who we are and let them fall in love, or maybe not fall in love with the person we are. Trying to be something you are not is exhausting…
Unfortunately that guilt that we carry with us can damage our future relationships as well, so letting go of that guilt is important. Easier said than done, I know… And most of this boil down to the fact that we need to learn to put ourselves first, but in a kind of unselfish way. And if you feel like you are looking for someone else when you are in a relationship, you probably should not be in that relationship in the first place.
So that was some of the thoughts rattling around my brain while I was writing this weeks song “Someone else.” The song is up on my Bandcamp page right now, so go and grab a copy of it HERE. And let me know if any of this is something you can relate to.
The author J.P. Kallio is a Singer-songwriter and a daily vlogger
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