Sometimes in a relationship our cry for help can manifest in strange ways. We might bury our heads in work, look for thing our relationship does not full fill us with from family and friends. Most of the times all of this happens unconsciously, we are not even aware of the mistakes we make sometimes until it is too late. We test our partners in a destructive way. And as a result instead of them reassuring us, they might just shut down or even run away.
We need to accept the fact that there is a difference how men and a women’s brains are wired. We think different way. What is logical to me might not make any sense to you. So by pushing, or punishing one another, we are only doing damage. I know you want him to “understand” your needs, but he is not a mind reader. If you want your needs met, you need to start by communicating what those needs are. But also you need to find out what their needs are. If you are not willing to make every effort to full fill their needs, how do you expect them to do it for you?
Communication, love and connection, certainty, excitement, feeling significant and feeling that the relationship can grow are all basic things to fix most relationships. But to do it, we need to look at ourselves and be willing to do it.
This weeks new song “Dangerous Game” is all about how that “testing” your partner can go dreadfully wrong. Stop playing those games before it is too late.
You can download “Dangerous Game” from my Bandcamp page HERE right now, and if you feel someone you know, or even love should hear this song, feel free to share it. Maybe this song and blog post could be the trigger to get them off that self-destructive path. Or just a subtle reminder even for a healthy relationship to keep communicating. Thanks for stopping by 🙂