I have few friends who are or have been in a kind of “ difficult” relationships, I’m sure we all do. And as much as you want to help someone, they need to be willing to help them selves first. I know this sounds like you might be washing your hands of it, but it is important to understand that you cannot help someone if they are not willing to help them selves. And this had me thinking about relationships again while I was writing this weeks song.
Expectations often can be very different than the reality. We have idea of a person, which can be different than the reality. And as I mentioned in the past, person can grow, but we should not try to change them. If your relationship have some fundamental problems, they won’t just go away in time. You can’t fix them by getting married, having kids, buying a house. In fact those problems become more complicated.
And as much as we need to fight for the relationships, sometimes we also need to let go. If you are not happy in your relationship, you should ask your self why that is. You should try to understand if it is something that can be fixed, or not.
Oh yeah and the white wedding… Too often have I seen couples (but especially the women) getting married just to have that special day. But when the dust settles, you realise the realities of everyday life don’t change much at all. Don’t get me wrong, I am not trying to discourage people form getting married. But I do wonder if the celebratory aspect of the white dress and the party where you get to be the centre of attention for that one day, was taken away form the marriage, how many people would rush into it?
So these were some of the thoughts running through my head while I was writing this weeks song. You can grab a download copy of the song right now from my Bandcamp page HERE. Let me know what you think of the song. Ad if you like it, feel free to share it with the world 🙂
The author J.P. Kallio is a singer songwriter
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